Today is the day my husband and I had our wedding reception. This was 4 years ago, al-hamdu lillah.
I remember being a little child, probably around 11 years old, sitting in the back seat while my father drove and thinking about what my husband is possibly doing right at that moment, what he looked like, who he was with, etc. etc.
Then at 19 years old, I build up the courage to let my parents know that I would like to get married. I didn't have anyone in mind, but I expressed to them that this is something I am open for. Let's just say they thought that it wasn't appropriate to bring up the subject then.
Many suitors came and one was a disaster, and then, finally, somehow, my husband found his way to me.
I remember feeling so grateful once we had our wedding that I would pray an extra two prostrations each night. I was 24 years old, and before he came, I was almost certain that I would never get married. You see, my family had so many requirements, that it made the process incredibly difficult. My husband and his family, apparently didn't see my parents requests as difficult. Al-hamdu lillah.
During our honeymoon, I remember we took a walk at the beach, it was quite amazing. I've never been out late like before; it was 3 A.M. It was a night I will never forget. The feeling of fear of the night and the protection of my husband all at once.
After one year, we decided it was time to start a family. Here I am almost 3 years later and that dream hasn't come to life. If anything, this process made us stronger. Although my husband doesn't express his feelings to me, I do appreciate that he lets me vent out my feelings and emotions and calms me with Islamic reminders of Allah's decree and our purpose in life.
Marriage is definitely not always easy. We have our good times and our difficult times. It is a process in which we are learning about each other and growing.
This year I went back to school. It really helped me get distracted from thinking about having a family, so I am grateful for that. My husband has been a great support in helping me study and getting me through it with ease.
Marriage. Ups and Downs. Gratefulness.
I remember being a little child, probably around 11 years old, sitting in the back seat while my father drove and thinking about what my husband is possibly doing right at that moment, what he looked like, who he was with, etc. etc.
Then at 19 years old, I build up the courage to let my parents know that I would like to get married. I didn't have anyone in mind, but I expressed to them that this is something I am open for. Let's just say they thought that it wasn't appropriate to bring up the subject then.
Many suitors came and one was a disaster, and then, finally, somehow, my husband found his way to me.
I remember feeling so grateful once we had our wedding that I would pray an extra two prostrations each night. I was 24 years old, and before he came, I was almost certain that I would never get married. You see, my family had so many requirements, that it made the process incredibly difficult. My husband and his family, apparently didn't see my parents requests as difficult. Al-hamdu lillah.
During our honeymoon, I remember we took a walk at the beach, it was quite amazing. I've never been out late like before; it was 3 A.M. It was a night I will never forget. The feeling of fear of the night and the protection of my husband all at once.
After one year, we decided it was time to start a family. Here I am almost 3 years later and that dream hasn't come to life. If anything, this process made us stronger. Although my husband doesn't express his feelings to me, I do appreciate that he lets me vent out my feelings and emotions and calms me with Islamic reminders of Allah's decree and our purpose in life.
Marriage is definitely not always easy. We have our good times and our difficult times. It is a process in which we are learning about each other and growing.
This year I went back to school. It really helped me get distracted from thinking about having a family, so I am grateful for that. My husband has been a great support in helping me study and getting me through it with ease.
SubhanAllah. Beautiful. Heart Touching. May Allah keep you two strong and stronger within time. Ameen.
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